For the typical woman you can hardly touch them enough.

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1.  Hugs - Women love to hug everything, each other, babies, animals even soft blankets.  For most women it is really hard to hug them to much.  Hug your wife before you leave for work (if she is still in bed ask her the night before if that is something you an do... mine like me to wake her up to say goodbye in the morning.  When you get home from work walk past the kids, go give your wife a good long hug and ask her how her day was, your kids need to see you prioritize your wife over them too.

 

2.  Graze:  Try walking up behind your wife in the kitchen and just softly drag your hand across the small of her back and whisper "I love you." (Then as you walk past her stop and do some dishes or empty the dish washer.)

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3.  Hold Hands:  Tonight as you lay in bed reach over and grab your wife's hand and pray for her.  If you're not comfortable praying just grab her hand and say "Father, thank you for blessing me with such an amazing wife.  Please give her a good nights sleep.  Amen"

    Yes gentlemen even married women like to have their hand held.  Walk with them, rub their hand softly with your thumb, walk AT THEIR SPEED so you don't pull them along, just relax and enjoy the touch.  I hate lotion, (so might you) but man up and rub a little Extra Moisturizing Lotion on your hands before you grab hers she will appreciate the gesture, and the soft hand to hold.

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4.  Tickle:  Men Please for the LOVE OF GOD... DON'T dig your fingers into her side like you do your children.  Instead try something light and soft, just once... don't be annoying.  I like to walk up behind my wife, move her hair, and kiss her neck.  She usually tilts her head away now enticing me to stay longer, but in the beginning it was just a small kiss on the neck, behind the ear.... early on that was enough to weird her out.

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5.  Open the Car door:  When you were dating you did this naturally, but now that you are married... there's the kids, or groceries, or your car doesn't unlock on that side.  I'm sure you have all sorts of excuses.  You don't open the door because she is incapable of doing it herself.  You do it because you value her and it's a way of demonstrating your service. ("He who wants to be the greatest must be the servant of all" Mark 9:35... that's true in marriage too).  If your wife has been grocery shopping meet her at the door and open it for her, then take the groceries or go out to the car to get the next load.  If your wife has been at work all day, try watching for her and meeting her at her car to open her door and help her out.  She will probably wonder what you did and why you are acting weird... Just tell her you love her and leave her guessing.

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6.  Pinch:  I'm not sure what it is about my wife's backside that drives me nuts, but I can't hardly walk up the stairs or behind my wife without giving it a soft pinch at least once.  Do not pinch it hard or swat it, be soft and gentle.  If she wants you to be more rough she will let you know, but if you're to rough, you might lose your chance to touch it again.

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7.  Flowers:  there is an old movie fantasy of throwing rose pedals on the bed with a lit candle.  Well you can try it and decide if it is a good thing or not, but here are a few hints.  Rose pedals stain the sheets, and aren't as soft as you think.  But after a romantic date, like your anniversary or valentines day, bring her home to 1 rose in a vase and 1 rose worth of pedals spread across the sheets... she might think it was romantic, especially if there is a candle lit nearby.

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9.  Invitation to dinner: I have heard women say all the time "I didn't know when I said yes to getting married I would spend the rest of my life worrying about what my family was going to eat for every meal."  So when you say "let's go out to eat tonight" it says to her "you don't have to worry about what you normally do for me, I will treat you instead."  

     I know this isn't physical touch, but because you have removed a physical chore your wife usually does, it will touch her heart.  In our family we started a tradition of "Friday, Family Movie Night."  It was just a simple way to celebrate the end of a long week, and we decided that if we were celebrating my wife shouldn't have to cook either.  So we made it "Family Pizza & a Movie Night," and gave everyone the night off of cooking.

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10.  Massage:  I don't know what it is about this idea, but my skin crawls every time I think about giving my wife a massage.  I suppose it is because she never thinks it is enough.  I routinely buy my wife professional massages.  For awhile it was every other week, now because of financial constraints it is closer to once a month, but when my wife gets a massage it is one hour long.  I just can't compete with that.  But the truth is, I don't have to.  A 5 minute massage is enough to show my wife I value her and she is important to me.  It can with be clothes on or off, and could even but sliding my chair in front of hers and rubbing her feet for a few minutes.  Don't let the fear of getting stuck there for an hour stop you too.  You can even set a timer and say to your wife, you have a 5 minute massage, what would you like me to rub?  (hint:  if you are going to rub her feet, make sure you rub both of them, and if you rub her back the parts you want to touch probably aren't the parts she wants rubbed, so let her tell you what to rub, where, and how hard).